Pamela Kosmowski, LMFT, CASAC-G, PhD
Psychotherapist
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Bio:
Dr. Pam Kosmowski is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Alcoholism and Substance Abuse Counselor, and National Certified Counselor. She works from a systemic lens, which views a relationship as the sum of its parts and as influenced by the broader social context. Therefore, in sessions with Pam, clients gain insight into how family members, partners, and social context bear upon them and their relationships, and learn how to make behavioral and communication changes for the benefit of all involved. The systemic focus gives all therapy participants the opportunity to explore feelings and express emotions and thoughts in a safe, non-judgmental environment.
Drawing from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Family Systems, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Pam aims to provide clients with the tools to increase their emotional vocabulary, communication skills, regulate emotions and impulses, and improve their overall self-confidence.
Pam works with teens, couples, and families. She specializes in life transitions, family conflicts, codependency, and addiction (substance use, gambling, and sexual).
Pam is a member of the National Society of Leadership & Success Sigma Alpha Pi Honor Society, the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and the New York Marriage and Family Therapy Network. She earned her B.A. in Language Arts from the University of Buffalo, an M.S. in School Counseling from Capella University, and an M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy from Northcentral University. Pam holds a PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy with a specialization in Systemic Leadership.
Education & Training:
University at Buffalo - B.A. in Language Arts
Capella University - M.S. in School Counseling
Northcentral University - M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy
Northcentral University - PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy
Get to know Pam:
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I approach therapy from a systemic lens, which views a relationship as the sum of its parts and as influenced by the broader social context. I also focus on the skills associated with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which provide the tools to increase emotional vocabulary, communication skills and improve overall self-confidence.
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A breakthrough happens when the client makes a realization about something. That realization could happen a few sessions into therapy, it could happen several months into therapy. As pieces begin to unravel and the story begins to unfold, that's when the "aha" moment occurs.
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"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated" - Confucius
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I would say, go into your first session with an open mind. It takes time to build trust with someone and be vulnerable, but that is why you're here. So be open. Know that I'm not judging you, and that I'm listening.
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One piece of advice that I give clients, that I often have to remind myself, is be kind to myself. We are often very critical of ourselves. We are our own harshest critic. Negative self-talk is just that, negative. So when I find myself going down that path, I have to pause and remember the advice that I often give to my clients - to be kind to myself.